RAISING CHILDREN TO HAVE PEACE OF MIND
https://infoniger.blogspot.com/2016/10/raising-children-to-have-peace-of-mind.html
HOW TO RAISE CHILDREN AND HAVE PEACE OF MIND:
THE WORST THING THAT CAN HAPPEN TO ANY PARENT IS TO LOOSE CONTROL OF THEIR CHILDREN. THE EASIEST WAY TO LOOSE CONTROL OF CHILDREN IS TO NEGLECT DISCIPLINE. ACCORDING TO PAUL GETTY, "THE INDIVIDUAL WHO WANTS TO REACH THE TOP IN BUSINESS MUST APPRECIATE THE MIGHT AND FORCE OF HABIT. HE MUST BE QUICK TO BREAK THOSE HABITS THAT CAN BREAK HIM—AND HASTEN TO ADOPT THOSE PRACTICES THAT WILL BECOME THE HABITS THAT HELPS HIM ACHIEVE THE SUCCESS HE DESIRES."
OR IN THE WORDS OF BRUTUS HAMILTON, “IT IS ONE OF THE STRANGE IRONIES OF THIS STRANGE LIFE THAT THOSE WHO WORK THE HARDEST, WHO SUBJECT THEMSELVES TO THE STRICTEST DISCIPLINE, WHO GIVE UP CERTAIN PLEASURABLE THINGS IN ORDER TO ACHIEVE A GOAL, ARE THE HAPPIEST MEN.
WHEN YOU SEE 20 OR 30 MEN LINE UP FOR A DISTANCE RACE IN SOME MEET, DON'T PITY THEM, DON'T FEEL SORRY FOR THEM. BETTER ENVY THEM INSTEAD”.
WHEN YOU SEE 20 OR 30 MEN LINE UP FOR A DISTANCE RACE IN SOME MEET, DON'T PITY THEM, DON'T FEEL SORRY FOR THEM. BETTER ENVY THEM INSTEAD”.
IT IS A WELL KNOWN FACT THAT IF YOU SPARE THE ROD, YOU CERTAINLY ARE GOING TO SPOIL THE CHILD. BUT IT IS ALSO A STATEMENT OF FACT THAT TOO MUCH OF EVERY THING, IS BAD. NO WONDER THEREFORE, THEY SAY, “MODERATION IS THE KEYNOTE TO LASTING ENJOYMENT.
YOU MUST BE ABLE TO SRIKE A BALANCE. YOU NEED TO DEMONSTRATE TO YOUR CHILDREN THAT YOU ARE THEIR BEST FRIEND AND YOU NEED TO ALSO DRIVE IT HOME THAT YOU WILL GIVE NO ROOM TO UNRULLY BEHAVIOURS. THE BEST TIME TO ESTABLISH THESE TWO MOST IMPORTANT INGREDENTS IN CHILD REARING, IS AT THE FOUNDATIONAL LEVEL.
ALL THROUGH MY GROWING YEARS MY FATHER FLOGGED ME ONLY ONCE, THAT’S RIGHT, BUT IT WAS A MEMORABLE FLOGGING. IT WAS SO THOROUGH THAT THE MEMORY OF IT LASTS A LIFE TIME. BUT SENECERLLY SPEAKING, IT GUIDED ME FROM DERAILLING.
EACH TIME I WANT TO MISBEHAVE, I QUICKLY REMEMBER THAT I COULD NOT AFFORD TO TAKE THAT KIND OF FLOGGING A SECOND TIME.
IT IS NOT TRUE HOWEVER, THAT I NEVER MADE MISTAKES THAT DESERVED FLOGGING, BUT HE WOULD SIMPLY SAY, “BE CAREFULL NOT TO MAKE ME FALL OUT WITH YOU”.
NOW THAT I AM GROWN AND HAVE MY OWN CHILDREN, I HAVE DECIDED TO ADOPT MY FATHER’S APPROACH. I HAVE BEEN ABLE TO LEAVE THE IMPESSION THAT THERE IS NO ROOM FOR LAWLESSNESS, BY FLOGGING THEM ONE LASTINTING AND MEMORIAL FLOG, AND I AM DETERMINED NOT TO FLOG ANYMORE. WHAT CONSTANT FLOGGING AND BEATING DOES TO THE CHILD IS THAT IT HARDENS HIM AS HE GETS USED TO FLOGGING AND BEATING. IF THIS HAPPENS, SORRY YOU HAVE LOST SUCH CHILD. HE WILL FEEL TOTALLY UNLOVED, AND AS A RESULT HE TURNS HIS BACK AT YOU. HE WILL DO ALL SORTS OF EVIL, AND GET READY TO RECEIVE THE USUALL BEATING.
I HAVE ALSO BEEN ABLE TO DEMOSTRATE TO MY CHILDREN THAT I AM THE BEST OF FRIEND.WE PLAY, TALK, AND A WHOLE LOT TOGETHER. NOW EVERY BODY IS HAPPY. WHEN THEY GO WRONG, ALL I NEED DO IS SAY; WITH A TONE OF FINALITY; “I DON’T LIKE THAT', AND THAT IS THE END OF SUCH THING.
I HAVE ALSO BEEN ABLE TO DEMOSTRATE TO MY CHILDREN THAT I AM THE BEST OF FRIEND.WE PLAY, TALK, AND A WHOLE LOT TOGETHER. NOW EVERY BODY IS HAPPY. WHEN THEY GO WRONG, ALL I NEED DO IS SAY; WITH A TONE OF FINALITY; “I DON’T LIKE THAT', AND THAT IS THE END OF SUCH THING.
IF YOU CHOOSE TO IGNOR DISCIPLINE, AND ALLOW YOUR CHILDREN LIMITLESS FREEDOM, YOU WOULD HAVE SUCCEDED IN RAISING LAWLESS FELLOWS WHO WILL BE UNCONTROLLABLE, SHOULD THEY GROW UP IN THIS UNGUIDED MANNER. YOU WILL SPEND ALL YOUR DAYS IN SORROW.
THEREFORE YOU MUST SHOW THEM PRACTICAL LOVE, MINGLED WITH DISCIPLINE AND OCCATIONAL REBUKING FOLLOWED BY REGULAR CORRECTION WITH LOVE; THIS WAY, YOU WOULD HAVE BUILT A LASTING PEACE OF MIND FOR YOUR SELF.
DID THEY NOT SAY THAT, LOVE IS THE DOORWAY THROUGH WHICH THE HUMAN SOUL PASSES FROM SELFISHNESS TO SERVICE AND FROM SOLITUDE TO KINSHIP WITH ALL MANKIND?
HAPPY PARENTING.
